With the horrible news of Lara Logan’s brutal assault and rape in Egypt, maybe we can use this horrific event to help educate young and old people that it has to stop now, goddamn it. Having grown up in a household with a very strong mother, who taught her 5 boys respect for all people and engrained in us the fact that every living being is worthy of respect, I can’t even fathom how someone could hurt another like that. Raping or sexually assaulting someone (overwhelmingly women) is the ultimate in disrespect of another human being. It robs them of their humanity and the effects are long lasting and in many cases permanent. My wife was raped twice in her life, the first time was when she was 14 years old (unreported) and the second time was at gun point by an ex-boyfriend when she was 36 years old (he went to jail for a few days).
As men, we have to stand up to these violent men and change the culture that allows them to somehow think it is OK to do this. People who rape almost always learned it from someone else, a parent, a relative, a friend, a pastor, a fraternity brother, a video game, a movie…oh man, it’s built right into our culture in many ways and it’s about goddamn time it stopped. Penalties for rape need to be harsh and just as brutal as the crime. There has to be consequences for these horrific actions, a price needs to be paid in order to send a message to people with these violent urges. It is a crime of violence, not sex. Domination and control, not arousal and it is never, ever justified no matter what the situation. NEVER!
Angry Black Lady has a post up by Emily L. Hauser about the assault on Lara Logan, here is a snippet…
But the simple truth is that the only culture that is responsible for this is human culture.
In far too many minds, all over the world, a female human is little more than an outlet or repository for male wishes or power (take a look at ABL’s post, below). Rape is regularly and consistently used as a weapon of war. Rape is regularly and consistently used as a method of control.
But rape is also just regular and consistent. Men rape for no reason other than that they think they can get away with it — all the time, every day. Doctors rape, clergymen rape, husbands rape, boyfriends rape, employers rape, “dates” rape. Sometimes they employ tricks and ploys and intoxicants in order to convince themselves that what they’re doing is not (as Whoopi Goldberg so memorably put it) “RAPE rape” — but if she said no, or couldn’t say no, or was too afraid to say no? It’s RAPE rape. It’s all rape.
And lots of times, rapists don’t even bother to convince themselves. They wanted a vagina, and there was one in the room. They wanted to bond with their boys, and a vagina walked by. They wanted to show that bitch, or prove their worth, or relieve themselves, or take what any man in his right mind would take. RAPE rape.
I hate to get political on the subject, but our friends in the Republican Party certainly aren’t helping to curtail it by sending messages like this…from Raw Story…
The broad anti-abortion measure would restrict federally-assisted abortion coverage to cases of “forcible rape,” excluding in that definition instances where women are drugged and raped, where women say “no” but do not physically fight off the perpetrator, and various cases of date rape. It also excludes instances of statutory rape in which minors are impregnated by adults. The victim in all cases would be denied abortion coverage under Medicaid and forbidden from seeking health care tax benefits.
Now they’ve since backed off on that language, but the message was very clearly sent to those men who think that drugging a girl or getting her drunk isn’t really “forcible rape”…right? Is it any wonder that our culture is so fucked up, white men have been running this country for way too long. My step father, a very wise man – may he rest in peace – used to frequently say that if women controlled the country, it would be a much better place. My parents gave a lot of money to Emily’s List.
STOP RAPE NOW! Speak out whenever you hear a man insinuate (or blatantly say) that it is OK and be forceful, don’t let it stand. And for goodness sake, teach your children to respect all people no matter who they are and engrain in them the golden rule, which appears in many forms in almost all religions “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”